Aita for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my ex I hope that the parents aren't saying stuff to the kids about how their aunt doesn't like them etc. She tried to get my blessing for them to be together. 2. During this dinner, my sister asked my son (17m) to make her wedding dress. I told my sister and my mother, and they say I'm wrong. I was furious. The problem is with my sister Lisa [F30]. RUN. I (40m) have a sister (30f) who is getting married in a week. I know this update is coming so soon but i’ll like to tell you guys a joke. She looked like she was about to rip my head off. AITA I'm french too; My sister is super verbally abusive to me since i was in elementary school and let me tell you that even recently if i ask her to clean the shared bathroom (for once in months, cause i always do it) she mentions the time she was like 5 and I was 2 and she had to clean my bedroom because our parents asked her to, so I'm not surprised that OP's sister could talk about My fiancée rushed to our room heading for the washroom but when she opened the door she found my sister and her girlfriend tangling in our bed again. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I might be the asshole for calling my sister poor because she is lazy and criticizing her dating habits because that was a low blow in terms of retaliation and obviously Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. #reddit #voiceover #r/AmItheAsshole #subreddit AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my cast-off ex? How do people deal with such drama in their lives? 60K subscribers in the redditonwiki community. Alice shouted at me so long my ears were ringing. Do you know what happens when kids aren’t exposed to age appropriate responsibilities? Adult children who are incapable of caring for themselves all the while feeling entitled to the efforts of others. Their mother and I agreed on a 50/50 custody arrangement after we split up and have stuck to it until this issue arose. AITA for telling my sister I’m happy to take her daughters but she can’t stay with me AmItheAsshole Original (deleted) My sister once told her ex if he didn't straighten up she would send me down to pickup one of the nibblings. "AITA for telling my sister she deserved to lose her job after sabotaging mine?" Okay, this is going to be long, and I know emotions are high, but I’m at a loss here and could really use an outside perspective. She threw a tantrum and said that surely my parents had manipulated my grandmother to make me leave nothing for her. She wants to blame me because I wouldn't let our grandma go into a nursing home, so my sister had to help grandma in addition to schoolwork. I (26F) was dating “James” (M26) for most of college and we had plans to get engaged after graduation. It worked out exactly like it always did. Reply reply Then 7 years ago she started dating her husband. My sister says she should not have to compromise her identity to get a job. ) Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. Her head knew she was not at fault, but she was saying that not being able to give her husband "the gift of children", which is seen to most people as a wifely duty made her feel broken and not whole. I told her to consider herself down one sister and I told her I never wanted to see her again. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: 1: Disregarding everyone else’s feelings in the situation so that my half sister could know the truth 2:Actually going out of my way to tell my half sister the truth and Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. When I called my sister to tell her the news, she was shocked to say the least. You were right. OPs sister would probably never have dated her husband if she knew he had a kid beforehand/if he'd already had custody of his son, it wouldn't make sense. We have 2 sons who are 15 and 13, and a daughter who is now 18. I'm getting married, and she has to accept it, just like she has to accept sharing a room with her new sister. Lisa has a 2 year old son with her husband. My name has Hebrew origins but doesn't sound "white". I have been estranged from my sister ever since she carried out an affair with my ex-fiance. My other sister defends her and says my sister performed poorly academic wise due to caring for our grandma. I’m childfree and when my ex changed her mind And while intellectually I knew that it wasn't my sister's fault but was my parents, and I did and do love her dearly, I harbored a lot of ill feeling toward my sister from the time of her birth when I was 12 yo. AITA for telling my sister she will not be my MOH after she didn’t support my engagement? Not the A-hole I (F25) have a very rocky relationship with my sister (F29). I was stunned at how cold she reacted. She's an over achiever, top of her class, college scholarship and athlete. And hopefully one day she can meet the kids, even if it's when they're 18+. She had a crying fit and hasn't spoken to me for days. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister she can no longer be my maid of honor after she continuously tried to push her mom in and my mom out of my wedding/my life during the last People just assume on how things are pronounced and it's a struggle sometimes. Two months before graduation, I caught him planning to cheat. My sister called from an unknown number a couple minutes after i posted this lol (I’ve blocked everyone). Lara was furious. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I believe I am the asshole for telling my sister that idc about the baby she lost while she was pregnant. So we didn't even get a chance to get to know this little girl before they told her that we were her family. . She has the degree and the right skills but even I AITA for telling my sister I can't fake surprise when she knew what she was getting into? Your sister knew exactly what she was getting into and chose to do so anyway. I have a 3 yo niece She's my younger sister, I'm 31 and she's 29. She's the kind of woman who refuses to leave home without a tone of make up and changes her hair once a week because she never thinks it looks good So, it’s been a while, and I know I haven’t answered any comments because I was too ashamed, and I still am. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I think I might be the asshole for saying something because my husband said I sounded jealous and It was petty to mention it when Tiffany can't control what she looks I reacted and sent her to her room, where I told her to stay quiet and that her opinion doesn't matter to me. My daughter hasn’t spoken to me since last summer due to an argument she and I had about college. I'm very white, my younger sister is mixed with an extremely white name. OP, your mother resents the hole she’s dig herself into, and if anything she’s jealous as hell of you because you have your whole life ahead of you, and you aren’t saddled with two babies (that were 100 % her decision). (We are both adopted from foster care so only our last names changed, it wasn't our parents choices for our names) If we don't point when someone else introduces us I (30f), and my SO (29m), let his sister move in almost 2 years ago when she was pregnant and had no where to go. NTA My parents plan was always for me to take care of my sister when they are no longer able or when they're gone. My boyfriend suggested that I get an outside perspective here. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. He scoffed because I was 1500 miles away, but backed down immediately when she said "Fine, I'll call her right now. Shocked face is out of order. A week ago today my parents were telling me I needed to learn to be more patient and understanding with my sister because I would take care of her one day and I told them they need to start saving for her future care because I won't do it anymore. My sister called me later and yelled at me for upsetting James and trying to make him jealous to get his attention. I could tell by her face that she was less than pleased, and all she I’m sure my sister would tell you I’m a lying bitch and just used the no children rule just to hurt her and that she did send me an invite list to the baby shower and i never moved in to help her raise my nephew and she never asked to take my cat with her and she’ll tell you the family dog she took was her dog because she was there when we picked it out and I broke her perfume on It was much harder for my mom to protect my sister from my bio-father’s family after the divorce. She couldn’t be there to monitor, then explain which of their remarks were untrue, when the visits happened during his parenting time (as opposed to being there like you were during MIL visit today with my brother and I. AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my EXWe’re dedicated to providing you with the highest quality story-readi I instantly knew that was a lie because my daughter has never called anyone else mommy. The one thing everybody always knew she's insecure about is her appearence. So the story is as follows; sister knew her husband and his ex wife in high Exactly. Cole proposed out of the blue; even my family didn’t know about it. Even I know that is bs. Despite trying to conceive for years and having no success with her husband every month, my sister (31F) felt like a supreme disappointment. . We got engaged in January and couldn't be more excited. I got angry, and I told her that she had no right to anything that my grandmother left because she was the one who cut off contact, not us. My sister and her husband came over for dinner the other day, she brought up the fact that I was pregnant with my first child and how she already had 4 about to be 5. My niece's name first and middle is going to be legally changed to whatever Jack wants. I honestly don't know if she'll ever be in their good graces again and will only put up with her for my BIL and niece's sake. Help keep the sub engaging! BUT, the sister knew that any kids she had with the BIL she stole wouldn't have an aunt. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I told my sister I thought she should get therapy to help her, as was suggested by the hospital she suffered her last miscarriage in. As of today, my sister has 4 children and is currently pregnant with her 5th child, I on the other hand just got pregnant with my 1st child. I asked her how she could live her life being so selfish and uncaring, and she got angry and told me, “Listen, kid, there are some thing you are way too young for to be discussing with me, and Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I found out because my brother caught the two of them together. It was a Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. At this point my dad was crying. It's a very small wedding and we're only inviting close family and friends. I also called her some not very pretty Aita ? Hi everybody, thanks for all the support and encouraging words so far. I stuck to my word. I told her that she knew she was getting a cheat when she decided to date my sloppy seconds and he was no longer my problem. For a little background, we live on his parents property, in their mobile home, 3 bedroom and 2 bathroom. The day after, I packed all of my sister’s When Neil asked about it I told him “Debbie showed us who she really was on her wedding day and don’t expect many invites from the rest of the family to do things” Neil was pissed and saying it’s not fair that she is feeling left out because she saw on social media where all the girls (including the snubbed sil, her mother, and my wife) went to Barbie movie dressed in pink and My ex-wife and I (51M) have 3 children together. She knew what she was getting herself into and that she wouldn’t pay Alice’s way through life just because she kept having children she couldn’t afford. Asshole My sister is 30 and is married to a man who she, and our family, love. Then, three months ago, a major project came up at my job. The groom proposed to her a year ago at a family dinner that left everyone speechless, but very happy for them as they are longtime companions. AITA - I told my sister is think it’s wrong she’s getting divorced over her husband’s son . I have an older sister, Rachel. It hurt, but I bit my tongue because I knew she was going through a rough patch. She insists both of them suffered burnout because of it. She asked well more demanded that I return the ring fiancé bought since it would be disrespectful to keep anything for him knowing Jack's family have ceased their negative comments about my sister but she says that they're still pretty formal and distant towards her. She got furious, and kicked both of them out and told my sister that if she couldn’t adhere to basic decency she wouldn’t be allowed here. This subreddit is for a podcast AITA for telling my sister she knew what she was signing up for after she named my late nephew after our grandfather? When my sister (35) was 25 she gave birth to my nephew who passed away soon after birth. Tell your sister she’s living there for free with 3 children and she knew exactly what she was signing up for. When my parents and sister found out what I said to Miranda, they were absolutely furious. Until that moment she wanted to name him "Dylan" however after he AITA for telling my sister that she knew what she was getting when she settled for my EXWe’re dedicated to providing you with the highest quality story-readi "AITA for telling my sister she deserved to lose her job after sabotaging mine?" Okay, this is going to be long, and I know emotions are high, but I’m at a loss here and could really use an outside perspective. Even with my mother she was getting called grandma before they even met. I [F24] am getting married to my fiancé [M26] in October this year. If she wants to dress like that in personal time it is fine but no job she is trying for will accept it. The sister/parents are insane to think she should suddenly forgive and forget just because karma got the sister. 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